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My former boyfriend played wow and boy was he addicted. I knew he wasn't giving it up and well so I joined him I had a warlock and we would just get a bunch of junk food and a stack of mountain dews and wow it up till dawn. Personally from my standpoint it was fun and hours would go by quickly.I even played city of villians and would even pla longer than him. But here's what happened I turned into his buddy rather than his significant other that means ( hardly any sex) and I know what you wow people are thinking " oh well the girl is prob ugly" I can assure you and even playboy can assure you that is not the case. Needless to say that relationship went right down the crapper.
Now here is my new situation " somehow I attract the gamers but I am back in the decision seat about my new boyfriend wower. And well At the beginning of the new year we were great mostly because he couldn't play. So our sex stats went way up! I even wrote it down 2 weeks 15 times. then the expansion hit!!! and not really much!
I know wow is a great escape however I feel that some are escaping a little too much it seems to me that people loose their passion while playing this game. I have asked him not to play around me which for the most part he does. But there is still something missing especially the passion . I am not going to ask him to not play his game however I am really contemplating about doing something to program so that way it seems like a glitch.
Any recomendations?
Now here is my new situation " somehow I attract the gamers but I am back in the decision seat about my new boyfriend wower. And well At the beginning of the new year we were great mostly because he couldn't play. So our sex stats went way up! I even wrote it down 2 weeks 15 times. then the expansion hit!!! and not really much!
I know wow is a great escape however I feel that some are escaping a little too much it seems to me that people loose their passion while playing this game. I have asked him not to play around me which for the most part he does. But there is still something missing especially the passion . I am not going to ask him to not play his game however I am really contemplating about doing something to program so that way it seems like a glitch.
Any recomendations?
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Re: Ugh still in decision about wow
Fri, March 23, 2007 - 9:34 AM"Any recomendations?"
Yes, read these threads and look for some advice. :)
Also as I said in the other thread you gotta talk to him.
I have a hunch that when he plays you are instantly in a bad mood because you do not want him to play. (bad energy) Then he feels guilty for some odd reason because he can not figure out why you are in a bad mood. (more bad energy) Then you ask him not to play without suggesting something else to do. He feels lost and gets defensive. (even more bad energy). So now he has escaped to the game sulking and clicking away, you are even more upset than before, bad energy swirls around the room and your brain starts to nit pick details. Yon mention your sex stats, I'm sure you chalk up another dead night in your stat book even though there is no chance you even want to at that point.
Now I could be wrong, but I'd suggest looking at this ficticious scenerio and maybee learning from it. I really don't know if this is your story, but I have seen this happen before.
The trick is to find something to do together that requires interaction. You can't just say stop doing that. You can't ask him to stop and come watch TV with you, that isn't interacting either. Compared to the game, TV is quite brroing and both of you are not interacting, just staring.
You mentioned you had played before but lost the coupple vibe? You gotta make room for coupple time. Gaming together was fun as you mentioned, but both of you screwd up there, you both just played and became distant physically. Now if one of you suggested something else to do together occasionaly, maybee you would have done that, reconnected at a different level and maintained your relationship. Any time one person is into something and the significant other dives in head first, both parties loose sight of the relationship because they are so busy with the hobby. Everything needs balance.
"I know what you wow people are thinking " oh well the girl is prob ugly" I can assure you and even playboy can assure you that is not the case."
Now that's a steriotype I have never heard of a gamer.:) If he was dating you I'm sure it wasn't your looks that were the reason for less romance.
Good Luck :)
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Re: Ugh still in decision about wow
Fri, March 30, 2007 - 7:31 AMI have read your response and I agree that we should have mutual activities that we partake in. And I am all inn for suggesting them as well. But here's what happens when I do.
Scenario:
ME: Hey honey lets go play frisbee at the beach or at least do something outdoors.
HIM: UMMMM well
ME: Do you not want to go to the beach? do you have something else you wanna do?
HIM: I am finishing an instance right now it will be about 30 minutes
ME: Please come out and the sun sets in about two hours I really just want to go outside
That is just one scenario " I clean the house make the dinner and pay rent 3 months in advice so he doesn't have to worry. Why do I have to beg for him to hang with me?
I feel that he is selfish and wants me to cater to him. Not to mention he is a scuba diver so I dropped 300 on training and now all of sudden he doesn't want to go anymore.
As you can read I am getting quite fed up.
I don't hate gamers however I dislike the way they disconnect from reality and just go into the zone.
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Re: Ugh still in decision about wow
Mon, April 2, 2007 - 9:00 AMIt is complicated, but it looks like your allot like me. You may be enabling him by catering to him too much. I spoil my wife and so she is a little spoiled and I created that. For you it looks like you are enabling him by paying bills and cooking. He is selfish and you do deserve better. Try putting some pressure on him. Hold him to his 30 minutes. Sit and watch him and ask him questions that way you'll know when he is truily done with the instance and not doing other things. Hold him to his share of the responsibilities. If he won't take out the trash, put the bag in his gaming chair.
I wish I had an easier answer, he reminds me of my brother, he is a tech diver and a gamer, but he has his gaming time and his time for diving and other hobbies. Balance is possible if they aren't selfish. If they are selfish, don't enable them.
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Re: Ugh still in decision about wow
Thu, April 5, 2007 - 10:37 PMFun way to break the WoW addiction. (Im clean 2 months on the 18th! woot!)
Heres how I did it :
Theres websites that sell and buy warcraft gold. I used mmoinn.com, they use paypal and you can see if there is a demand and for how much they will pay at any time on any server for either faction.
Yes, I got banned. They got me on my 3rd day of doing this. 70 human priest, Lohtac, among others. 100s of hours down the tubes.
However I made $70 with about 2000 gold. But here is the best part. Since the ban, I have felt NO urge to play WoW. This was truly remarkable for me, as my family will attest, I was a hard core addict. Seeing the 'screen of banation' totally took away all my will to play that game again. Such a worthless, imaginary hill to push such a worthless imaginary rock up again. Since then, I have taken up weight lifting and running again, and have improved my bench press by 22lbs and can do a 13 second 100 yard dash again. I went to the forums ONCE in this time, and was almost overwhelmed with a sense of nausia, I had no desire to read the whining or hear about the lame new features, instead, I picked up my guitar. :-)
Side note : It feels good to help others break their addiction. I only suggest you quickly find something to fill the void after you get perma banned. And not another game.
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