Hi Jenn, I'm sorry for what your going through. I did the same thing to my wife and it almost cost me not only my marriage but my sons who are 1 and 2 1/2. I was just like your husband almost a mirror image blinded by what was going on in the real world consumed by the wow world. It was really bad for us and came to a head 3 weeks ago whan for the first time i noticed my wife wasen't wearing her wedding ring. I asked her why and being a person not only ruled by emotion i'm one who right off the bat will assume the worse possiable situation. Little did i know i was right, she had all but givin up on our marriage, me and any possiable way of getting me off the game. But my wife is smart and used the emotional aspect of life and the true reality of it to open my eyes. So in a last ditch effort to save the life i have always dreamed of ( my wife and my sons) i totally changed my life. I quit the game for one threw away all of the game cd's i had and started to take a real look at what can i do to save this. See my wife works 60 hrs a week, I stay at home with our youngest due to a worl related accident that resulted in me havin back surgery. Yes you are right i was a lazy sob for the longest time, just eat sleep take care of our sons and play wow. little did i know i was destroying my wife little by little. That was 3 weeks ago. Now my house is spotless dishes are clean sink is empty, i'm spending time with my sons that i should have always been and repairing what i did to my wife both emotionally and physically. But it will take some time to repair what has happend to her in the inside. like i said i'm ruled by emotion all aspects of it. Sge took it away from me all of it. No physical contact what so ever. No kissing no hugging no snuggling in bed zip. And yeah it crushed me but this is her way of showing me how i treated her, and she was right. Even when we had our alone time their was no cuddling after I was right back on the game. And when you thing of it you have to wonder why she kept me around. But thankfully my eyes have been opened to the real world and i faced my most fearful fears and came out a winner never again to hurt the ones that make me feel the way i do today. This was a crash course she showed no mercy to me at all to get her point across to me as quickly as she could and oh man did it work. I'm just now being able to express some affection to her but still getting nothing in return. And that's understandable i caused some real damage to her no doubt about it. But i'm taking the steps to repair it slowly and correctly. Time it just takes time. So my advice to you is this you could do what my wife did and threatin him to take you and your children away from him if things dont change. Shut down your affection totally show him nothing at all and accept nothing at all. Take off your wedding ring. Or thing of a way to get him to wake the hell up and come back to the real world. I truly wish you the best for you and your family and will keep in touch. Bruce

I know just how you feel, my husband joined the game 2 and a half years ago, 6 months after we got married, Shame it wasn't 6 months earlier I would have said no.
I too have had many arguments regarding the game, I'm not saying don't ever play, just not every night till 2am and every Saturday and Sunday.
Since having fights regarding it I must admit he does spend a hour a so a couple of times a week with the kids, or we might sit and watch a dvd together, but straight after and he's on, my son and daughter get there small amount of time, but me,, I don't get any. Last year for my birthday we went to the cinema, came home thinking we would go to bed together, but then the night finished with the famous words, "I'll be up in a bit" yeah he went back on the game. Our 3rd Wedding Anniversary was last week, again the cinema we went as there was a film HE wanted to see, then back home to go on that god dam game. I have never felt so down in my life, I am stuck in this marriage due to money and have to sit listening to that marriage killer game.
There should be a support group for us out there, as this is a addiction just like any other.
I have also been poorly the last couple of days, surprise surprise no love or support there.

I guess you know there's more of us out here, you only have to type it in to google and loads of pages come up, if you luck and find a way of making him realise, please share your wisdom.