http://ihatewow.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822?format=rss Tribe.net. Local Connections http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#5949cd12-1908-4308-8f09-eaa014416df9 Hi Dana, I have a same problem with my husband. The only thing that differs is the title of the MMORPG game he plays. He plays Everquest 2. In fact these guys live in the game. It relaxes them and they keep saying the same excuse, it's better for them playing the game than running down the pub!!! If you try to nag, he might make a time here and there but as you say he is not there because he wants to. Spending time with you is a chore to him! I have been there and in the beginning he would go out if I kept on nagging at him but he didn't enjoy it and I didn't enjoy it either because he was always in a hurry to have it over with so he could return back to his game. This online gaming is very addictive. He even orders now groceries cause it's just a waste of time when he can be killing epic monsters with a group of guildies in the virtual world! The less I nag the more addicted he had become. I have even tried to play it but as yourself I really don't see the appeal of killing monsters for hours to come. I would spend more time decorating the in-game house or doing quests but as yourself this is very time consuming and I could think of thousands of other things that needs to be done or I would rather do. I see how destructive this can be to a marriage and a relationship. Now if I try to pull the plug he will become very aggressive, a side of him I never knew. Like it or not he does nothing after he comes back from work but play this game nonstop, every evening, every weekend all year round. I moved the computer to the closet so he sits there and even eats there. As I sad he lives in the game. There's no time for you because these people in the game are just more important!!! I myself am studying at the moment and the only thing is I want a baby but because he plays the game all the time there's no energy or time left to make one! Our sex life is practically non-existent. I don't see him changing for better but for worse. You have got it harder because of the baby coming but the longer he plays the worse he will become. My husband plays this for years!! It is just as bad as him having a lover or drug addiction. The lack of commitment to you and your marriage is very destructive. You can give him ultimatum but don't expect him to stick just to 2 hours a day or anything like that. He hasn't last a day doing it that way. Good luck to you but yeah once the baby is born you might have to leave him if he doesn't change and as I see it he won't!!! Sat, 02 Jan 2010 14:41:01 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#5949cd12-1908-4308-8f09-eaa014416df9 Martina 2010-01-02T14:41:01Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#ddfe992f-4876-46e3-bb00-c22d03807633 My Boyfriend of 18 years (and we have two kids together) plays this game constantly... to the point where he does not really do anything else. He sleeps a few hours here and there and get so angry with me if I say anything about WOW, he curses and yells... its horrible. He ignores the kids, my daughter was trying to tell him she was having problems with her car... it took days before we finally got it through his head... then he was upset with himself for letting WOW rule him to the point where it might have hurt his daughter, but that lasted all of about an hour... then its back to it. He won't even get off his ass and get a job... or even look most of the time because he is too busy on WOW... I am ready to leave him and I have told him this... it doesn't even faze him... he could care less because WOW is more important than his family.. atleast thats how we, his family, feels. Tired of this game! Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:31:21 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#ddfe992f-4876-46e3-bb00-c22d03807633 Teri 2010-01-02T03:31:21Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#634ac4a7-ff01-4017-880b-8bd74435260a Well I would like to say I played from April 2008-June2009. I played all the time no sleep and raid raid but i had been married for 2 years but been with her for about 4 years. My friends played the game so i thought we could try my wife also started playing but then soon lost interest. I stopped playing cause my wife was upset always sad/mad because i she said i changed and i started to get head aches my body started hurting from playing so long i finally just stopped and feel 100% better and now play 1 or 2 times a week. The game is addictive but like anything else hopefully its just a phase for some people if not i feel for all you out there. Fri, 01 Jan 2010 15:27:53 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#634ac4a7-ff01-4017-880b-8bd74435260a Sam 2010-01-01T15:27:53Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#0a1bc155-8bbb-4394-9206-87ad68f3272c When will men learn? I'm getting divorced after a short 11 month marriage. I was sold out to a level 70 night elf. He's a 24 year old man, who forgot I existed after the first two weeks of marriage. I'm so frustrated, annoyed and betrayed. I would rather destroy this game than cure cancer - that's how infuriated I am. I wanted to just throw his computer out the window. He plays 18 hours straight, doesn't shower and only leaves to eat. I'm far from being a violent person, but just the lettters "WoW" make me want to murder things. Sun, 27 Dec 2009 20:44:51 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#0a1bc155-8bbb-4394-9206-87ad68f3272c Ally 2009-12-27T20:44:51Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#1b61b427-c0ad-4789-9873-cb100c3210bc hi, i can admit i play wow and yes it is addictive, and i think it has nerly or possibly has ruined my relationship, i was playing nerly 24/7, and now hv decided its time to take control, my priorities hv to b family first and i hope its not too late or i will lose my kids and my partner and untill now i hv realise how much i do love them and hope its not too late, it is an adictive game, and wish i hadnt bothered wiv it, i hv built up too much of my characters to delete my account and th monthly cost so im gonna cut down my hours, and play at set times, or may not even bother playing it atall but gonna work at fixing my relationship if its not too late, and to all those who do play wow it is a great game, but plz dont let it run ur life, it will ruin it, so take control and plz listen to ur partner, its a fantasy world, but life isnt its real wow is a game life isnt its reality, and at the mo reality has hit me, and i cud lose it all, SO DONT LET WOW RUN UR LIFE ITS NOT WORTH IT ive lernt th hard way, and im so scared and understand how much i hv hurt her Wed, 14 Oct 2009 13:38:34 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#1b61b427-c0ad-4789-9873-cb100c3210bc james 2009-10-14T13:38:34Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#58a8829c-0d48-44fb-9777-f272ea841f06 Hi Dana.. I can totally relate to everything you say... My husband says he is not addicted and can stop anytime. I convinced him to stop playing for a few weeks, only to have him beg me for it everyday and rub it in my face. He cannot see that this is ruining our marriage. He chooses the game over everything including intimate alone time. I am at my wits end!!! Everything you say is exactly what happens in our house. Sun, 04 Oct 2009 18:51:24 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#58a8829c-0d48-44fb-9777-f272ea841f06 christy 2009-10-04T18:51:24Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#ce4124d5-6d11-4b3c-b97e-aaa2e10aaf1e You do realize that it only cost 50 cents a day at the most to play wow. And the expansions come out once every two years. If you seriously think that would keep someone from buying a webcam, then hopefully you can remove yourself from the gene pool asap. And what the hell is he supposed to do all day when you're in separate time zones? Of course he'd get more interested in wow then you. Dumb ass. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 04:51:27 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#ce4124d5-6d11-4b3c-b97e-aaa2e10aaf1e kyle 2009-07-24T04:51:27Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#a39a85b0-5364-4303-932b-b7eb102c9b93 Don't knock warlocks you ignorant slut! Fri, 24 Jul 2009 04:45:52 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#a39a85b0-5364-4303-932b-b7eb102c9b93 kyle 2009-07-24T04:45:52Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2c85e280-6ea9-48e1-bdf8-98dc8cd80109 Learn to spell. Fri, 24 Jul 2009 04:41:22 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2c85e280-6ea9-48e1-bdf8-98dc8cd80109 kyle 2009-07-24T04:41:22Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2f5d6d69-8b74-4b2b-a194-d9f705b43230 Meridith, I feel your pain. When I read your post I was blown away at the similarities of our situations. I too had a bi-coastal relationship and my fiance (or so I thought) became hooked into WoW and all the traits that you are writing of, he exhibited. I was absolutely in denial about the addiction that he has and rather summed it up and blamed myself - just as you are, that I wasn't good enough to keep his interest or that he just needed to relax, he is a doctor, and that was his escape from the harshness he sees daily. But whatever the case, this gamer was so pathetic that the game became his only focus and so he ended our relationship without even telling me, and telling his mommy to tell me that, he just didn't have the time to call me. This is a man who lead me to believe that we would have children together, HE had even picked out names, all without encouragement from me. He built a fantasy world for me, I suppose since he lives in a fantasy world it's all he knows. Totally detached. I even discovered several text messages from his 2 kids (who live opposite coastline) begging for him to return calls and asking why daddy doesn't call them or tell them he loves them. His own mother felt that he neglected priorities because of the hold the game had on his addictive personality. This is a physician! who never vacuumed his floors in over a year because he just couldn't find the time. Waking up in the mornings when I did visit, meant turing on the computer before he even went to the bathroom. Crazy. I knew something was wrong but didn't know how wrong. All the while he was playing the game and conning me into thinking we had a future, it was hard to take him serious during phone conversations when all I could hear was the tap-tap-tap of the mouse and the tiny little voices of guild members coming from his headphone gear. Skyping became non-existent, texting ceased, and all the while I'd try to address the situation in that maybe he just wasn't happy with me - but he'd say I was "silly and overreacting, that I was the priority." I tried to understand him so much so that I went to a WoW art exhibit, and that is when I discovered that it wasn't just a game as they say, it was truly another world. I was shocked to see the flirting that occurs on these games. Now I know that every individual should have control of their own priorities and I'm not necessarily blaming WoW but I just think it's sad when people with addictive and selfish behaviors destroy loving relationships, hurt children, and leave people feeling betrayed and hurt. He conned me through the discourse of love all the while bringing the freaky fantasy world of maliciousness and harm to real life. Meridith my advice would be, make happiness for yourself and let him go, if in time he comes around... then it was meant to be. But you won't be able to stop him, control him, and those feelings will only hold you back and build resentment which of course aren't good in this short life we have. Let them sit on their lazy butts, living out some delusional, whacked, lifestyle of anti-socialism warlock wizardry. Weird freaks! Mon, 20 Jul 2009 00:28:22 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2f5d6d69-8b74-4b2b-a194-d9f705b43230 cerritos 2009-07-20T00:28:22Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#9704fffa-c24c-4604-87af-38bf52ad07e8 I can relate to your story completely Dana. My boyfriend and I are having the same problems right now. We're in different time zones, so I barely get to see him as it is to talk to him on skype voice chat.Once upon a time, we would spend hours together, talking and staying up late and just being happy. But ever since he got back into the game, it's been nothing but that for him.At first I didn't think it would be a big problem, because he had gamed with programs like Warhammer and still had time to be with me. However, it's gotten to the point where i'm lucky to have a text conversation with him for an hour, with responses coming back from him about every ten minutes (normally these consist of "oh?"s and "hehe, I see"s...not a lot of thought into those responses when i'm talking about something important). He was planning on getting a webcam so we could even see each other, but he spends the money on WoW expansions and cards instead. His guild needs him 24/7...the most time i've spent with him is when his dog passed away and I got the privilege of comforting him. I can't even tell if he loves me anymore. Once he told me that there was no way he could love "a bunch of pixels" more than me when I confronted him about it, but now all he does is talk about the game. Even when he's not actually playing, he's youtubing videos of the game to watch instead of talking to me. It's made me question if he even loves me enough to want to see me, or if he'll spend all of that money on his WoW membership. He says he loves me more than anything...but when I fall second-place to a fantasy world that eats his money and time, courtesy of Blizzard games, I can't help but second guess if I'm good enough for him. I can't see myself as good enough when I'm losing to a computer game. It's gotten me depressed and confused, and I'm not sure how much more I'll be able to look on at this with a smile. Anyway...even writing about it has my vision all blurry with tears, so I think I'll end it here. I'm wishing you the very best and I hope that it works out for you. Confront him calmly about it, sit him down and don't raise your voice, no matter how many times you've done it before. Even if he yells, as long as you're calm you'll remain in control of the argument and hopefully shock some sense into him. If you have to, really shock him and leave for a night. See how he responds. Mon, 06 Jul 2009 05:46:08 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#9704fffa-c24c-4604-87af-38bf52ad07e8 meredith 2009-07-06T05:46:08Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#f4a1ceb0-8a52-4b12-8b70-00efcf8286f1 WoW runs without a disk Wed, 01 Jul 2009 17:04:24 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#f4a1ceb0-8a52-4b12-8b70-00efcf8286f1 Michelle 2009-07-01T17:04:24Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#4526e73b-8c2e-49d0-acd0-3a1edb968fb8 tell him he's a noob at life. ggkthx. Tue, 30 Jun 2009 03:17:43 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#4526e73b-8c2e-49d0-acd0-3a1edb968fb8 mike 2009-06-30T03:17:43Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2b700fb6-49b0-4f75-8943-17ab8cc8de0b I tried that, and my husband was totally pissed off and could not stop bugging me to give his CD back! I don't know what to do. Sun, 19 Aug 2007 01:13:10 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#2b700fb6-49b0-4f75-8943-17ab8cc8de0b Vicki 2007-08-19T01:13:10Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#587cb6df-0b53-440b-9a11-c41d1f5150a4 Well take the CD when hes not on your PC and snap it, or throw your computer away or something, anyways jest get rid of the game, the game is jest a waist of his time, life, and money anyways. Thu, 09 Aug 2007 02:26:29 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#587cb6df-0b53-440b-9a11-c41d1f5150a4 Dan 2007-08-09T02:26:29Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#9acff4e1-29c7-4fc4-acfe-1184317dc379 Hi Dana, I would encourage you to read the other stories on this tribe. The hard part to understand is that addiction is not a rational thing. Ever hear of gambling addicts? These people are addicted to pulling a lever and watching the wheels spin. Compared to that WOW has allot more going on and has the potential for being more addictive. There are many thigs you can do. I heard that ALANON has programs for the famlies of addicts that teach you how to deal with them. I heard that the way they teach you to act as subtle as it is really works to pull them back. Best of luck Mon, 30 Jul 2007 17:02:45 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#9acff4e1-29c7-4fc4-acfe-1184317dc379 Cody 2007-07-30T17:02:45Z http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#5b7ef096-726a-4629-8e3a-38a66488d0c9 We were in a rocky situation anyway before my husband found this game. Since then things have totally went downhill. My husband is so addicted to this game that I have nothing to turn to. He misses work to play this game. He stays up all night long without sleeing to play this game, then wants to sleep the whole day away. When he wakes up he goes straight to the game. He suffers from headaches, but says it is not because of the game. He has the crappiest attitude when he is not playing. When he does play he pays no attention to me or anything/anyone around him. He is in his own world. Everything is getting neglected. I've considered calling and having our internet disconnected to save our marriage. I understand he has friends on there that he likes to talk to. I have online friends as well, but they do not consume my life. I can turn the computer off at any moment and be okay. When we have to go somewhere and I tell my husband he always needs 10 more minutes..that turns into 2 hours. Everything depends on his status in the game. Heaven forbid an emergency come up and he HAS to shut it off. I'd be scared to know what he would choose in such a situation. How do I get help for him? He refuses to admit he's addicted. He just doesn't see it. It is way too apparent. Help!!! I would hate to see this marriage end in divorce over some fantasy game. Sat, 28 Jul 2007 16:21:11 GMT http://ihateWOW.tribe.net/thread/c0b72c51-13bb-41a6-b356-25a349f2f822#5b7ef096-726a-4629-8e3a-38a66488d0c9 Dana 2007-07-28T16:21:11Z