I have been battling gaming for years. But since WOW came along it never ends. This game never ends! My husband plays this at work, inbetween work and at home whenever he can, he picks it up. He has fought me over the issue, he has become angry and even reacted with such fierce anger that I was frightened. Over the years I have tried crying, demanding, being more alluring, being more fun, ignoring the problem and joining in. It does not matter what I do, because I am not the one with the problem. My husband has a problem. At times he has admitted this. He has tried to regulate this at time too. He has committed, in writing , to only certain days or certain times....but they never stick. He falls back into the temptation. I have yet to find a solution to the problem. Each of these people that are struggling are struggling with an addiction and a weakness. It is not the fault of the other people in their lives. It is not that we as "widows" ,(speaking for myself),do not want them to enjoy thier lives. It is that we want them to be healthy, and be in the healthy real time relationships with the people that they started a life with. We all deal with the pain of rejection in different ways, sometimes it is anger, sometimes it is despair, sometimes it is disconnection. I, like most of the rest of the people here, wouldn't care if the people we loved enjoyed themselves on the computer, every once in a while. It is the passion and the drive that they put into the guild and the game that we want directed back at the healthy real life sources. That is what I, personally, envy and desire. I want my husband to fight for me the way he fights for time with that game. Part of me wishes that before kids were involved, I had taken a stronger precedent....but hind sight is 20/20. I love my husband desperately, and my kids love him desperately. I think that it is just helpful sometimes to hear someone else say..."I get it." "I hear you", since we live with people that look at us like crazy people regarding this topic. And that is what this is about, for me. Thanks for listening and being there.