Meridith, I feel your pain. When I read your post I was blown away at the similarities of our situations. I too had a bi-coastal relationship and my fiance (or so I thought) became hooked into WoW and all the traits that you are writing of, he exhibited. I was absolutely in denial about the addiction that he has and rather summed it up and blamed myself - just as you are, that I wasn't good enough to keep his interest or that he just needed to relax, he is a doctor, and that was his escape from the harshness he sees daily. But whatever the case, this gamer was so pathetic that the game became his only focus and so he ended our relationship without even telling me, and telling his mommy to tell me that, he just didn't have the time to call me. This is a man who lead me to believe that we would have children together, HE had even picked out names, all without encouragement from me. He built a fantasy world for me, I suppose since he lives in a fantasy world it's all he knows. Totally detached. I even discovered several text messages from his 2 kids (who live opposite coastline) begging for him to return calls and asking why daddy doesn't call them or tell them he loves them. His own mother felt that he neglected priorities because of the hold the game had on his addictive personality. This is a physician! who never vacuumed his floors in over a year because he just couldn't find the time. Waking up in the mornings when I did visit, meant turing on the computer before he even went to the bathroom. Crazy. I knew something was wrong but didn't know how wrong. All the while he was playing the game and conning me into thinking we had a future, it was hard to take him serious during phone conversations when all I could hear was the tap-tap-tap of the mouse and the tiny little voices of guild members coming from his headphone gear. Skyping became non-existent, texting ceased, and all the while I'd try to address the situation in that maybe he just wasn't happy with me - but he'd say I was "silly and overreacting, that I was the priority." I tried to understand him so much so that I went to a WoW art exhibit, and that is when I discovered that it wasn't just a game as they say, it was truly another world. I was shocked to see the flirting that occurs on these games. Now I know that every individual should have control of their own priorities and I'm not necessarily blaming WoW but I just think it's sad when people with addictive and selfish behaviors destroy loving relationships, hurt children, and leave people feeling betrayed and hurt. He conned me through the discourse of love all the while bringing the freaky fantasy world of maliciousness and harm to real life. Meridith my advice would be, make happiness for yourself and let him go, if in time he comes around... then it was meant to be. But you won't be able to stop him, control him, and those feelings will only hold you back and build resentment which of course aren't good in this short life we have. Let them sit on their lazy butts, living out some delusional, whacked, lifestyle of anti-socialism warlock wizardry. Weird freaks!