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Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship (800km) for over 7 months now, and everything was fine until world of warcrack began to take over.
The first incident occured just 2 months into the relationship. Everything was perfect, until suddenly I no longer recieved replies to text messages, and my calls were rejected. I started to get worried, as before this I knew hardly anything about the game or how often he played. As far as I knew, it was just one of his hobbies on the side that he used to fill up spare time.
Anyway, for about a week prior to this starting, I gave up on contacting him. I was informed by one of his close friends at the time, that he had spent the past week playing WoW, almost 24/7. For the next week and a half, I sat up alone at night, thoughts racing through my head on what to do about this whole situation, usually ending in tears. A good friend of mine (and an enemy of my boyfriends) knew the situation, and was trying to help cheer me up with some jokey comments on each others myspaces. A few days later, at about 2am, I get a series of text messages from my boyfriend, some abusing me saying things like, "You are such a fcuking slut, why don't you just go fcuk him now," others like "I can't believe you, I hate you so much."
I replied simply with, "None of this would've happened if you payed more attention to reality."
After a few hours of him recieving my text, he replied, apologising, saying it would never happen again, promising me that he would NEVER ditch me for a game ever again.
That same night, we spoke on the phone for over an hour, with many mixed emotions. We sorted it all out, he apologised to me, and swore that he would never do it again, explaining that WoW is addictive and he got caught up in his own world. He even asked me if I would marry him when he comes to see me next. He was really commited.
Everything was fine after that, and there was only one small incident of WoW before what happened 2 weeks ago.
He got accepted into a guild that raids, from ridiculous hours (around 6pm - 2 - 5am) and he met a girl, the same age as me that he seems to talk to alot.
Since then, I've talked to him for a maximum of 20 minutes for this entire week. What did we talk about? Sex, WoW and this "fantastic" girl he met on WoW.
We fought for most of those 20 minutes.
He denyed chosing a game over me, and whenever I told him that I wanted to be able to spend more time with him, he just told me to stop acting like a 5 year old.
I am only 14, and he is 18, but from what I have said here, am I acting like a 5 year old?
All I asked for was a compromise. Anything where I get to talk to him more.
He is the love of my life. He even said so himself. Yet, when I asked him what he would do if we ever fell apart, he simply said, play WoW.
Yet thats what hes doing, and I'm still here. Its like I'm second best to him. He leaves me for tuesdays, when WoW shuts down for maintenence, or 5am phone calls every couple of weeks.
He's become agrivated and angry, he's full or rage. For someone who was once a loving boyfriend, and son, he has turned into nothing but an obsessed monster.
I don't see him for the person he was before. He has changed completely over the time space of a few weeks, all because of WoW.
He claims that he loves me, and he would never leave me. But he has. He isn't there for me anymore when I need him, he doesn't even pay attention to me when I'm lying on the floor, throwing up, and yes this has happened.
For some reason, I still love him and want to spend my life with him.
I don't know whether to blame this all on WoW, or on him. Or maybe me. Who knows.
For me, its back to lonely days, and teary nights.
I better finish this here, before I drown in all these tears.
Thank you all for reading.
Anyone with some advice, It would be much appreciated.
And again, thank you for your time. Everyone else out there in the same kind of situation as me, and most of you worse, I wish you luck.
The first incident occured just 2 months into the relationship. Everything was perfect, until suddenly I no longer recieved replies to text messages, and my calls were rejected. I started to get worried, as before this I knew hardly anything about the game or how often he played. As far as I knew, it was just one of his hobbies on the side that he used to fill up spare time.
Anyway, for about a week prior to this starting, I gave up on contacting him. I was informed by one of his close friends at the time, that he had spent the past week playing WoW, almost 24/7. For the next week and a half, I sat up alone at night, thoughts racing through my head on what to do about this whole situation, usually ending in tears. A good friend of mine (and an enemy of my boyfriends) knew the situation, and was trying to help cheer me up with some jokey comments on each others myspaces. A few days later, at about 2am, I get a series of text messages from my boyfriend, some abusing me saying things like, "You are such a fcuking slut, why don't you just go fcuk him now," others like "I can't believe you, I hate you so much."
I replied simply with, "None of this would've happened if you payed more attention to reality."
After a few hours of him recieving my text, he replied, apologising, saying it would never happen again, promising me that he would NEVER ditch me for a game ever again.
That same night, we spoke on the phone for over an hour, with many mixed emotions. We sorted it all out, he apologised to me, and swore that he would never do it again, explaining that WoW is addictive and he got caught up in his own world. He even asked me if I would marry him when he comes to see me next. He was really commited.
Everything was fine after that, and there was only one small incident of WoW before what happened 2 weeks ago.
He got accepted into a guild that raids, from ridiculous hours (around 6pm - 2 - 5am) and he met a girl, the same age as me that he seems to talk to alot.
Since then, I've talked to him for a maximum of 20 minutes for this entire week. What did we talk about? Sex, WoW and this "fantastic" girl he met on WoW.
We fought for most of those 20 minutes.
He denyed chosing a game over me, and whenever I told him that I wanted to be able to spend more time with him, he just told me to stop acting like a 5 year old.
I am only 14, and he is 18, but from what I have said here, am I acting like a 5 year old?
All I asked for was a compromise. Anything where I get to talk to him more.
He is the love of my life. He even said so himself. Yet, when I asked him what he would do if we ever fell apart, he simply said, play WoW.
Yet thats what hes doing, and I'm still here. Its like I'm second best to him. He leaves me for tuesdays, when WoW shuts down for maintenence, or 5am phone calls every couple of weeks.
He's become agrivated and angry, he's full or rage. For someone who was once a loving boyfriend, and son, he has turned into nothing but an obsessed monster.
I don't see him for the person he was before. He has changed completely over the time space of a few weeks, all because of WoW.
He claims that he loves me, and he would never leave me. But he has. He isn't there for me anymore when I need him, he doesn't even pay attention to me when I'm lying on the floor, throwing up, and yes this has happened.
For some reason, I still love him and want to spend my life with him.
I don't know whether to blame this all on WoW, or on him. Or maybe me. Who knows.
For me, its back to lonely days, and teary nights.
I better finish this here, before I drown in all these tears.
Thank you all for reading.
Anyone with some advice, It would be much appreciated.
And again, thank you for your time. Everyone else out there in the same kind of situation as me, and most of you worse, I wish you luck.
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Re: Teared apart.
Mon, June 18, 2007 - 4:33 AMDam it, my computer crashed, lost all my writing. Here we go again.
I came to the main page of Tribe looking to post my ads to obtain a job as a Board Operator in Talk Radio, and Videographer as well as getting side work with my co-worker in painting. I had to comment on this. What got me to quit is the fact that these flatulent, ignorant, narcissistic, smug, snotty, arrogant, closed minded fools I had to deal with on a daily basis. I am a very talent person, and "undiscovered talent" at many things, I am a "Diamond in the Rough." With this said, I have a 70 full frost mage, the following is what I faced while playing WoW, which lead me to ultimately quit:
1. After turning level 60, I could not get the help I needed to do the big raids/instances. You might be saying, join a Hardcore Raid Guild. Actually, common sense, I did join 2 Casual Raid Guilds, few regular guilds, same type of ignorant, selffish types who conveniently can say no to someone. No help from hardly anyone at any time. As I stated in a post to my realms forum, Zul'jin and Suggestions. WoW needs to get computer players to help the people out.
2. I did not have real life friends at my beckon call to get help with the game. Otherwise it would have made it a lot less of a struggle.
More importantly, if I was lucky to have a girlfriend that loves and accepts me. I would be doing so much better than I am doing now. This is how it is in my world, you people should be so lucky! You don't know what you have, untill you don't have it! I am single, and lonely and miserable. I feel so unloved. I am living life alone. I deserve much better than this. I am a intellectual, analytical, open minded, compassionate, selfless, witty, unique person. A lot of women would be so lucky to have me in their life. My inner self and persona are true gems.
Hue and everyone else I feel your pain, I'd like to talk to you via telephone about your struggles, WoW, life in general. Please contact me. I also would like the information as to were this WoW addicts group is, I need to go myself.
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Re: Teared apart.
Tue, July 24, 2007 - 11:19 AMDude your problem is you think are Mr. Wonderful and its obvious your not. That turns people off.
Here this poor child is having problems with her boyfriend playing wow and the only thing you care about is yourself.
You say
"This is how it is in my world, you people should be so lucky! You don't know what you have, untill you don't have it! I am single, and lonely and miserable. I feel so unloved. I am living life alone. I deserve much better than this. I am a intellectual, analytical, open minded, compassionate, selfless, witty, unique person. A lot of women would be so lucky to have me in their life. My inner self and persona are true gems."
WTF does this have to do with the girl that is having problems with her boyfriend and how is she so lucky?
I play WoW about 10hrs a week now but a lot more when I first started though never close to some of these Wow heads play.
Its not a problem for me cause the game just isn't that good but I never had problems meeting people and getting help. Whats your problem?
You put your contact info out and I think you did it because the girl made the mistake of telling her age didn't you? I mean dude your post sounds really strange and I sure wouldn't put my contact info out knowing that a 14 year old girl is the OP.
Mr. diamond in the rough LOL
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Re: Teared apart.
Fri, July 6, 2007 - 3:49 PMFirst off, your post should be called TORN apart.
Second off, "the love of your love" does not exist when yo you are 14 years old
Third off, "If you are 14 and he is 18 your conversations should consist of WoW and NOT sex
Im reading more jealously here that he found a female friend then anything else. You should be HAPPY for him that he got accepted to a raiding guild (they are harder then some fraternities to get into) you should be thankful he is spending his time online and not in a Sorority house or at parties meeting other girls.
