So this is my first time posting here as I just found the site today. Like alot of you, WoW is causing some issues between my girlfriend and I. And like some of you, I also used to play the game. The wierd thing is I actually met my girlfriend in the game. It wasn't one of those "we live across the country, we've never met but we're dating" things you see so often. We just found out we lived close to each other (about 10 minutes on foot...), decided to meet and, quite surprisingly for both of us, we fell in love.

The thing is, the only real reason I ever played WoW was for a lack of anything better to do. Some people watch tv, read books, whatever. I played wow. I never once blew off anyone to stay home for the game. I did actually end up mildly addicted to the game where I was looking forward to days when I could just stay home and play it, but after about 3 days of not going out I'd go nuts and have to do something. I always thought that people that played were mostly like me, and couldn't figure out groups like this one because I didn't really believe anyone would ever actually PREFER to stay home and play a game over seeing their friends/spouses.

Shortly after I started dating this girlfriend, I began to really lose interest in WoW. I started to realise that every time I got on the game, I was either bored or mad. I couldn't really see the point in paying money for something to piss me off or bore me... So I slowly quit playing, dropped down from playing every day, to playing a couple times a week, to once a week, to once a month...now I don't have an account anymore. I realised I would just much rather spend time with my girlfriend than sit on a computer. This is where the troubles started happening.

I had assumed (stupid thing to do I know) that my girlfriend felt the same way I did about the game: it was basically a boredom killer. But after I slowed down/quit playing we started having issues. The first thing that happened was my parents came up to meet her. We had planned on doing supper for a couple nights on the weekend because she worked during the day. She came over the first night, but the second she decided to stay home to raid... This really bugged me, but when I asked her about it she told me it was more that she was nervous about coming over. I just believed that because again, I figured nobody would rather stay home and play a game than do something with real people. But as time went on, this kind of stuff started happening alot more. We'd be planning on going out with people and we'd end up an hour or more late because she had to finish a run or whatever she was doing and didn't start getting ready to leave in time. Or we'd be planning on getting together after she had finished a run or raid and she'd end up "forgetting" and continuing on the game. These kinds of things got more and more common and we started fighting about the game alot. It came to the point where she actually quit playing for a while because of all the fights.

Now she wants to start playing again and I'm thinking "here we go again". She tells me she doesn't miss the game, the only reason she wants to play it is because she doesn't have any other way of seeing her friends that have been moved because of the military and that she's not going to get hooked into it again. The thing is, I've heard this so many times before. I don't want her to not play WoW at all BECAUSE she can't stay in contact with alot of people that she went to high school with any other way. But I also don't want to feel like I'm below a video game on her list of priorities. I really don't know what to do anymore.